meditatio at the water's edge

I am increasingly sensing tension between myself and ideas such as 'leading' and 'vision.' While the later two subjects are getting so much attention these days, all of us continue to put so much emphasis on these two ideas. We don't want to get distracted from our vision, and we want to be known as a leader(s). Yet, we also claim that relationships are our first priority. IF relationships are our first priority, should we not be willing to have OUR vision derailed (or at least re-routed) as God brings new and different people into our lives? Are relationships that God brings to us really our top priority? Or is our vision still what drives us? ... give it some thought...